written by Dani E.
A drink magically appears before you at the end of your meal. You are seated at the bar (you came in alone). You are planning to get the check as soon as the bartender is free.
The drink, courtesy the man two seats away, with an empty seat between you. His friend on his opposite side.
In and of itself, a sweet gesture. Someone paying attention, showing attraction. However, this gets tricky if someone is relying on expectations. I had to continue with your day- so a polite "thank you" accompanied with "I'm afraid I can't join you; I was just about to pay my bill," should have sufficed.
Ladies: I ask you - does this usually suffice? Normally they at least try to convince you to stay for just one or a few more minutes or have last words to say to you somehow.
Maybe they are well meaning, trying to do something "nice". But as a stranger, what makes them believe being turned down is a cue to turn against the woman? Who taught this behavior?